Fishing isn’t just for the boys. As a fisherman’s wife, I can tell you firsthand that life is better since my husband helped me discover my love of fishing. I didn’t grow up fishing, but since marrying an angler, I’m just as hooked on the sport as he is.
I never thought I’d be turning down brunch with the girls to wake up at 4:00 a.m., load up the boat, and head to the coast to catch the morning bite (albeit sleeping the whole way there). Yet every day I spend with my husband on our boat is a day I wouldn’t trade for anything in the world.
I have a hunch that your wife might feel the same way, and that’s why you should consider taking your wife (or girlfriend) fishing, too.
Women Love Fishing
They just might not know it, yet.
Think about everything you love about fishing. Chances are, your wife appreciates those things as well. These are just a few of the things I love about fishing that my husband and I have in common:
- Quiet time away from all of life’s worries and all our problems at work and home
- Time to slow down, unwind, and appreciate the time we have together
- A chance to connect with nature and the beauty of the world around us
- The ultimate stress reduction technique
- An opportunity to learn and discover new things
- The satisfaction of success and triumph after a long day of fishing
When you look at it that way, fishing isn’t so different from Saturday morning at the farmer’s market. Whether we’re out shopping, getting our nails done, having mimosas, or spending the day on the water, the benefits are the same. Your wife just needs one great fishing trip to see it that way.
Get More Fishing Days
If your wife wants to fish, you get to spend more time fishing. This should be all the encouragement you need to take your wife with you on your next trip.
Since discovering my love for fishing, my husband no longer has to decide whether to begrudgingly run errands with me or go fishing by himself and risk upsetting me. He doesn’t have to split his valuable weekend time between what I want to do and what he wants to do. Instead, we go out of our way to make sure that chores and errands are done during the week so that we can go fishing together.
Additionally, now that I’m a little fish crazy myself, I completely understand why my husband loves it so much. If you go fishing with your wife, there will be a point at which she understands and even encourages your fishing obsession.
She’ll also understand that sometimes you just want to fish by yourself or with your buddies. Gone will be the days of arguing over how you spend your weekends. No matter how you look at it, this means more fishing days for you!
Grow as a Couple
I truly believe that fishing is one of the best activities a couple can do together. Fishing has allowed my husband and I to grow in a way that we wouldn’t have otherwise. I hate to get all sappy and romantic here, but it’s true.
Fishing together gives you private, quality time without the distraction of kids, pets, or friends. Time on the water allows you to slow down, bond, and learn together. It has taught both of us to be more patient with each other. I’ve learned to exercise my patience when I’m not catching anything, while my husband has learned to be patient about everything else.
I know that teaching me to fish has really tested his patience. At times, I’ve been a more difficult student than his seven-year-old brother. But he never gives up on me, and I think my husband’s favorite part is seeing my progress as an angler. Of course, it’s my favorite part, too. However, it’s especially rewarding for him to see his efforts as a guide paying off, especially when I’m able to pick a lure, catch, land, and release a fish completely by myself.
Don’t get me wrong. There will be low points, especially when your wife loses a monster that you would’ve landed otherwise, or when you’re bitter about your wife out fishing you. (Trust me, it’ll happen!) However, the communication skills you learn on the water will carry into other parts of your relationship. And I assure you, fishing together is much cheaper than couples’ therapy!
Keep Things Interesting
Every fishing trip is a new adventure you get to take together, which really helps keep your relationship fun and interesting. Keep in mind, that for your wife, everything is a new experience and a new place to explore. Teaching your wife to fish lets you to relive all your fishing firsts through her eyes.
Fishing also opens up a world of new things try together. When it’s time to plan a vacation, I always think of places where we can go fishing.
On short weekend trips, I look for cheap hotels with boat parking near a well-reviewed fishing spot. For longer trips, I research charter trips we can take together. We’ve been deep sea fishing off the coast of Aruba, caught a monster sturgeon in a river in Canada, and ice fished for the smallest trout we’ve ever seen in Whistler, British Columbia.
These are experiences we never would’ve had if my husband didn’t share his love of fishing with me. Now, we get to travel the world together, taking vacations that always revolve around fishing. I guarantee that nothing will make you happier than hearing your wife say, “Guess what we’re catching on our next vacation!”
Helping Your Wife is Rewarding
I remember when I caught my first redfish, a 22-inch keeper, on a bait that I picked out, on my new rod and reel. Not only was it exhilarating, but the look of pride and satisfaction on my husband’s face was worth just as much as landing that fish.
My husband is a great teacher. He’s thorough, patient, and completely unfazed by having to explain knots to me every single time we go out. But the more I learn, and the more independent I become, my passion for the sport grows exponentially. Fishing has helped me build confidence in skills I never thought I needed, and my husband takes so much pride in my progress.
Fishing Together Makes You a Team
My husband and I work great together when we’re out fishing. We root each other on when we hook up on a fish, work as a team to net it, and celebrate each other’s victories when the fish is inside the boat. On a fishing trip, there’s no man for himself. We’re successful together or we fail together.
Of course, there are times when we get a little competitive. When my husband got an inshore slam, I tried to do the same the next day. When I caught a big redfish, his next catch was one inch bigger than mine. But the friendly competition is what makes us so excited about working together. Having someone who’s just as invested as you keeps you sharp and challenges you.
At the end of the day, when you’re heading home with a cooler full of fish and a boat to clean, you have a partner who’s willing to help with the dirty work. Plus, the teamwork doesn’t end on the water. The best part is getting to cook your fish together and enjoy the day’s haul.
Your Wife Remembers the Important Things
There’s a fishing mystery that I may never solve. I don’t understand how my husband simply doesn’t need to eat when he’s on the water. I, on the other hand, am relentlessly hungry all the time. No matter how early you try to leave in the morning, plan on being late because your wife is microwaving a breakfast burrito and grabbing a snack for later.
That’s the great thing about taking your wife fishing. We remember things like food and sunblock. My husband always leaves it to me to pack a lunch, fill water bottles, and save him from a nasty sunburn.
Your wife may take entirely too long to get ready, but you can count on her to be prepared for any situation, including having plenty of cold beer on hand on a particularly unsuccessful day.
A Note to the Wives
I wrote this article in hopes of encouraging more men to take their wives fishing. I never expected to love fishing as much as I do, and I’m so thankful that my husband brought me into the fisherman’s fold. However, I want to add a note to the ladies, too:
If you’ve never fished before, and don’t think you’ll like it, just give it a shot. I’m so happy that I did. And if it turns out that fishing just isn’t for you, don’t forget to let your husband enjoy it on his own. This pastime is important to him, and it’s much easier to understand why he loves it so much if it’s something you’ve experienced for yourself (even if he may never understand the appeal of a farmer’s market on a hot summer day).
Are you interested in fishing with your husband? Leave a comment below!